What is behind an insult? What is behind a compliment?
There is a vast difference between objective truth and subjective truth.
The truth is, that there is not truth in a subjective viewpoint or statement sometimes.
Should we even bother listening to opinions of others, about our singing?
If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, then ugliness is also in the eye of the beholder.
What is behind it?
There are things behind comments. What are they?
- Thoughts
- Ideas
- Opinions
- Knowledge or
- Ignorance
- Experience
- No experience
- Expertise
- Bias
- Prejudice
- Good
- Evil
- Intentions
I remember being a kid and I told my mother something derogatory about me that had been said. Her answer was, “Consider the source.” That was great advice. It still is.
Too often we can be hit with criticism and crumple.
How many times have you quit something or slowed down after having been criticized?
Criticism can be almost lethal.
It can kill a dream.
It can stop you dead in your tracks, never to move forward again.
Criticism can slow you down and make you question your purpose and your ability.
Some people talk about constructive criticism. Here’s an idea.
How about instructive learning and forego criticism?
How To Consider The Source – 10 Ways
- Who said it?
- What do they really know?
- What education have they had?
- Are they a professional in your field?
- Are they trying to help?
- Do they know how to help?
- Have they helped others that can be verified?
- Have they criticized you more than once?
- Do they offer any useful suggestions?
- What are you going to do about it?
Your Sources For Information And Help
You want a verifiable track record with evidence.
Professionals with licenses are usually good sources.
Professionals in the arts who have experience are usually good sources.
References are good to check.
Experts in various fields can be good sources, but opinions from people who are not experts are best avoided.
Find the best sources that you can. Don’t you deserve that?