A Singer Taught Me This

I had a singing student, who taught me a lot.  She had around 60 clients per week in her counseling practice.  She had a doctorate in psychology.  Psychology comes from the word psyche, which means spirit.  Yet, some psychologists claim to be atheists or agnostics.  This lady, Lisa, believed there is more to the world than what’s seen by the naked eye.  She shared this with everyone she knew.  Her clientele raved about her. Dr.  Lisa was a living example of what she believed about life.  A true alignment of thought, word, and deed, she was.

Lisa wrote songs, expressing her views about things, the same things she spoke about in her sessions with her clients.  I might say “her patients”, but she was the one with patience and a deep understanding.  One of the best compliments she gave me was when she said, “You’re the most normal person I know.”  Some might debate that because people are hyper-argumentative these days.  I would go on to say that those people are also hyper-unhappy.  The stuff in their minds cannot make residing there very pleasant.

Her best advice to singers was:  Seek to express, not to impress.

One time she called me and I didn’t know who it was on the phone.  She had lost her voice.  With 60 clients per week, she used her voice extensively and without it would lose her practice.  She had gone to an E.N.T., who scoped her but found nothing was physically wrong.

I gave her a little project to do.  It was my turn to council.  She did the assignment.  It wasn’t vocal exercises.  The next day she called me, she had discovered the source of her problem and her voice sounded perfectly normal again.

I had a way of discovering that she had a block.  She had made it herself and when she realized what it was, as if by a miracle, her voice returned.  Turns out, she was conflicted and her cognitive dissonance turned into a psychosomatic problem.  The freedom gained from discovering what blocks us is invaluable.